Alyssa Chambers
Recipe for the perfect housewife: one apron, one broom, one beautiful smile and a treadmill.
These are the stereotypical, and often considered insulting, expectations of a housewife: to keep dinner on the table, to clean the house and to stay in shape so you look presentable by your husband’s side.
Though this isn’t the 1950s, times have changed and women are no longer expected to stay within the confines of the home, I believe some of the ideas that originated these expectations were logical and should be preserved, to an extent.
It’s important in any relationship to have an element of respect. I enjoy a masculine man who can provide for and protect me if need be. I also believe there is a fine line between being masculine and stern and being condescending. I expect to be treated as an equal by anyone I’m in a relationship with.
That being said, I enjoy making sandwiches.
Before, women were expected to have dinner on the table when their husbands got home. Though this is no longer an expectation, preparing a meal instills a sense of pride within me. I enjoy taking care of my boyfriend. After a long day of school, practice and work, I like being able to give him a home-cooked meal and have a nice dinner together. It makes me feel good to know that I’m taking care of the people I love.
I also take pride in the presentation of my home and myself. When I look good, I feel more confident in myself and proud of the hard work I’ve put into myself. It’s never a bad thing to stay healthy and in shape. That’s something a woman does for herself.
My aspirations in life amount to far more than being a housewife. I hope to graduate in December and start a career of my own, following my dreams. However, among my many dreams, owning a home, being married and having a family are high priorities. Those are the things that I, personally, feel would be most rewarding. And I would welcome the idea of being responsible for the well-being of that home.
Levi Meyer
Your phone is ringing. It’s your girlfriend, and boy, is she pissed.
Maybe you left the toilet seat up, or you forgot your anniversary. In all likelihood, you probably shouldn’t have called her friend “Ke$ha” the other night.
She’s livid, but she plays it cool.
“I’m fine,” she says. “It’s not a big deal.”
But it is a big deal. In fact, it’s the biggest damn deal in her eyes. And she’s not going to tell you what’s wrong.
She wants you to figure it out yourself.
Women have many expectations for men in relationships, some of which are completely valid. A man should treat his girlfriend with respect and give her support and comfort when she needs it. He should make her feel loved and protected and provide for her within his means.
However, men should not be expected to read minds.
It is insane for a woman to expect a man to inherently know what she wants. If she wants you to meet her parents, she should tell you exactly that. And she shouldn’t be disappointed if you don’t surprise her with dinner reservations for her family.
The solution to the problem is to always be vocal about what you want. More communication leads to less disappointment. Know what you want and say what you want, and you shall get what you want.
As the man in the relationship, make sure you take care of your girl’s needs. But don’t beat yourself up when you can’t predict them ahead of time.
Now she’s sobbing uncontrollably on her couch, watching Disney movies. Look what you’ve done.
You check today’s date in your calendar, and sigh in disbelief. You have absolutely no clue why she is angry and emotional.
To solve the problem, you say, “Let’s talk about it,” but she doesn’t tell you.
Nobody ever said it was going to be easy.
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