Opinion Columnist
Alyssa Chambers
Fetish, n: sexual attraction to objects or body parts not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature. Often times, a person becomes so entangled in this fetish and fascination that it becomes nearly impossible for them to achieve full sexual satisfaction without it.
Sex and fetishes are still very taboo subjects in our society. People often feel hesitant to address their sexuality in fear of being judged or rejected. Some fetishes can be incredibly off-putting. For example, I recently saw an episode of “Strange Fetishes” on TLC that explored the sexuality of a 30-year-old man named Jeff. Jeff could only achieve a orgasm while being breast fed. This fetish obviously created problems in his relationship when his wife was no longer able to produce breast milk. Jeff stated that he intended to continuously impregnate his wife until she can no longer produce children, solely in order to satisfy his fetish.
If your partner comes to you asking you to participate in something that makes you uncomfortable or not aroused, I’d advise you to reevaluate your relationship. Sex is a physical and natural act that should satisfy both you and your partner. It should bring the two of you closer. If you’re unable or unwilling to give your partner what they truly desire, it may lead to conflict in the future, such as you feeling inadequate, a longing for full satisfaction or insecurities.
That being said, I do feel it’s important to keep an open mind in the bedroom. Your partner’s sexual satisfaction is just as, if not more, important than your own. Be open to experimenting and adding a little excitement to your love life. Change can be a good thing, and nothing is sexier than a girl who is confident enough to take control and surprise the hell out of her man.
Levi Meyer
What do you want for Christmas?
In the next few weeks, men everywhere will be able to enjoy the holiday season with someone special. It’s the most romantic time to find a ho-ho-ho and cuddle up in front of an open fire. And once the eggnog is cracked open, the yuletide freak comes out in everyone.
But what if your sexual preferences are more naughty than nice?
Kink is the inclination to be turned on by abnormal sexual situations. It’s natural to be intrigued by what is freaky and taboo. But before you pull out the turkey baster and figgy pudding, it’s important to discuss the perverse acts that make your bells jingle.
Communication is an essential part of any relationship, so it’s important to talk about kink so that your flame isn’t frightened by your festive fetishes. Be honest and open about what you like and don’t hesitate to suggest a dirty idea to your partner. If your desires are potentially unsafe or uncomfortable, it’s critical to talk about them. The more honest you are about your fantasies, the more comfortable your partner will be to fulfill them.
But once all of the naughtiness has been discussed, strive to be open-minded about trying new things in the sack. Just like romantic relationships, sexual relationships must evolve in order to survive. Kink is great way to spice things up. You might be skeptical about trying a filthy act that your partner loves. But remember that pleasing your partner, no matter how outlandishly, will make your relationship stronger. If fetishes become too overwhelming or dangerous, feel free to stop. Otherwise, “yule” put an eye out.
So the next time you’re about to rock around the Christmas tree, step out of your comfort zone. It might be your favorite Christmas gift.
And no matter how kinky it gets, make sure you hang a stocking on your chimney with care. There should only be one baby to talk about on Christmas morning.
Recent Comments