Going off to university is a big deal for its students. For many of us, it’s the first time that we’re on our own. Exploring life through a more independent lens, creating a community around our shared experiences and finding a place that allows us to grow as we shape our paths in life is just one of the appeals of higher education, much like getting drunk while underage.
While I am comfortable here, there is a noticeable rift between
the students of CMU when it comes to their connection to the university and school pride.
When I used to think of the stereotypical college experience, I imagined scenes from the media; raging parties, socialization through university led activities, and massive sports events, an intense feeling of belonging to something bigger than yourself. However, for me and many others on campus, this is not reality.
As an older student, I have a tough time finding the motivation to engage. I’m here to get my degree and get on with my life. I walk to class in the mornings, eat lunch in the cafeteria every once in a while, come back home to finish my homework and legally drink alcohol while watching old minecraft videos to forget that I am getting old. I have no drive or desire to engage with on campus activities or events, as it’s just too exhausting.
Maybe it’s my age showing, but I think this school feels rather clique heavy. Students tend to stay within very confined groups which can make branching out and interacting with others difficult.
For example, athletes are inclined to hang out with other athletes, going as far as to call those not engaged in varsity sports NARPs (non athletic regular person). This can make it daunting for new students to integrate, especially for those who are unsure of where they belong.
It doesn’t just stop at athletics, the various majors can be the same way. While this is normal, as it’s easier to engage with those we often share classes with, it becomes daunting when trying to participate in club or university led events that we have little to no connection with.
It leaves me asking, what’s the point of engaging with school pride when it can be so hard to connect with anything in the first place?
I want somewhere to belong and to make my grueling work schedule easier. Spaces outside of class to engage and socialize with others are essential, but in such niche environments these places can feel like they’re hidden in plain sight.
